Today seems like an appropriate day to explore a topic that affects us in ways we might not always recognize in the moment: fear and self-protection. While we often think of fear in terms of obvious phobias or anxiety, its influence can be more subtle and far-reaching.

Fear, in its quieter forms, can masquerade as practicality, perfectionism, or busyness. Underneath these thoughts and behaviors is often a self-protective part. It might show up as:

• Constantly seeking others’ approval while thinking you’re being considerate
• Over-planning under the guise of being prepared
• Staying busy to avoid deeper emotions or self-reflection
• Procrastination, framed as “waiting for the right time”
• Holding onto familiar pain, because it feels safer than the unknown

These subtle fears can hold us back from our dreams and desired state of being.

Often it’s our unconscious fear of unworthiness that blocks us. Or an “upper limit” problem which manifests as an aversion to positive experiences. We might sabotage healthy relationships, get sick in the process of something we’ve worked toward, or downplay our achievements because, on some level, we fear we don’t deserve them.

I often find that our fear of vulnerability can lead us to build walls of perfectionism or hyper-independence ironically preventing the deep connection and acceptance we crave.

Recognizing these subtle fears is the first step towards freedom. It’s not about eliminating fear entirely. Instead, it’s about developing a new relationship with fear, one where we can acknowledge it without being ruled by it.

This week I invite you to grab your journal and reflect on: “If I knew I was worthy and loved exactly as I am, what would I do or how would I be differently today?”

Sit with this question. Gently, let your answers reveal the places where fear might be quietly holding you back.

Confronting fear takes courage. I see you. If you’d like support in navigating these hidden fears, my group of holistic psychotherapists and I here to help.

Until next Thursday, may you turn toward your fears with curiosity and compassion.

Warmly,
Elana