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  • Tend To Yourself Thursday {10/17}: A Tool To Create Balance In Urgency Culture

    In a culture of urgency, many of us find ourselves caught in a web of conflicting priorities, trying to anticipate every possible scenario and striving to manage it all perfectly. It’s like attempting to plant and grow an entire garden at once, anxiously checking each seed, wondering if we’re doing enough or if we’re falling behind.

    This type of anxiety often stems from deeper roots. Everyone’s story is unique, but it might be rooted in childhood experiences of feeling overlooked in some way. In our adult lives, this can manifest as a fear of not being seen or valued unless we’re constantly proving our worth through productivity and success.

    I often see people trying to earn their way into being seen, and when I ask “how’s that going for you?” It’s typically met with a long sigh and a laugh. Constantly trying to earn whatever it is you want – success, validation, love, connection – is unsustainable. Consider that just being you is enough.

    This doesn’t mean you don’t need to work, but why and what is it that you’re working so hard for? This is about where you’re coming from, shifting from a place of stress and fear to one of wholeness and groundedness. While society often pushes the belief that success means constant hustle and urgency, true success – the kind that feels authentic and fulfilling – comes from a place of balance and self-awareness.

    One way to create this balance is to practice intentionality with your time by having time boundaries. Time boundaries are limits we set around how we spend our time.

    1. Set specific time boundaries for different priorities in your life.
    2. Include dedicated downtime in your schedule.
    3. When faced with a task, ask yourself: “Is it time for this now? Can it wait until its scheduled time?”
    4. Honor your schedule, treating downtime as important as work time.

    This practice helps you protect your energy, reduce anxiety, and approach your responsibilities from a more grounded state.

    Remember, you’re not just tending to a garden of tasks and responsibilities – you’re nurturing your mental, emotional, and physical well-being too.

    If this resonates with you. My team and I are here to support you in cultivating a life that feels both productive and nurturing.

    Warmly,
    Elana